If you know anything about NLP, then you know what an “anchor” is.
It is mainly attributed to Pavlov, that Russian boy. He was doing some experiments and inadvertently discovered that when he rang a bell when he fed his dogs dinner, they salivated.
He was originally investigating the content of the dogs’ saliva, but accidentally discovered the connection between the bells and the responses.
(By the way, it’s quite interesting how many inventions and discoveries were actually created by accident.)
He started ringing the doorbell WITHOUT feeding his dogs food and noticed that they were STILL salivating.
Like I said, if you’ve heard of NLP, you’ve heard of this story.
You trigger some “feeling” in someone, you “anchor” that with a touch or a certain gesture, and now you have an “anchor” that you can shoot anytime you want.
At least in theory.
It works great in seminars, when everyone is playing, but in the “real world” it’s not so easy, especially in a pick-up situation.
It requires a LOT of ratio, otherwise there will be a lot of noise in the system.
The GOOD NEWS is that there is a much more subtle way to achieve the same effect.
Instead of following the rather useless technique taught in seminars, where you TELL the other person to “feel really good”. and then tap them on the shoulder when they “feel really good”, just keep EVERYTHING on a low level.
As I’m sure you know, the easiest way to convince someone to do ANYTHING is to convince them it was their idea.
How do you do that with a cute girl you’re talking to?
Easy!
All you have to do is talk to her and get all those things that make her feel good. If you do it covertly, it literally works like magic.
Get her to talk about her ideal future, her favorite hobbies, her passions, ANYTHING that excites her.
The more you talk about those things, the more naturally he will associate them with you.
Instead of trying to “impress” her or “show courage” or use some silly “smug and funny” or “push and pull” nonsense, just talk to her about the things that naturally spark her emotions.
And because he is looking at you, listening to your voice, looking into your eyes, he will subconsciously associate those feelings with you.
And just like Pavlov’s dogs started salivating every time they heard the bell, she will naturally start thinking about those wonderful feelings every time she thinks of you.