You don’t need “Pick Up Lines” to meet someone, because humans naturally want to be together. You don’t need “secret seduction techniques” to meet someone because all humans naturally want to make love. You don’t need “a lot of effort” to find someone because humans naturally belong together. Human beings gravitate towards each other. Loneliness means that you are putting a lot of effort into denying the reality of human nature and interaction. You don’t need the Belief that “all the good ones are taken” because there are so many out there and they are all interesting human beings. You don’t need to look like a superstar first because you will naturally attract what is best for you. The “law of attraction” means that energy attracts like energy, that what you experience as reality is not by chance but happens according to your thoughts and feelings, in correspondence with the energy that you radiate to the world. The only thing you need to flirt is to know how to correctly apply energy attraction fields. This sounds mystical but it is very practical.
All these books and seminars for men on “Pickup Artists” and “NLP Techniques for Seduction” have no idea what women want. No idea, really. Women want to be appreciated for who they are. The last thing they want is someone saying memorized pick-up lines. All these books and seminars for women on “Finding a soul mate” and “Attracting the right partner” are often not appropriate for the mother’s desire to flirt and have a good time. All this exaggerated expectation about “soulmates” can block the natural flow of Flirt because she’s constantly running an image in your mind instead of what’s happening right in front of you. That’s not to say I don’t believe in soul mates. I certainly do, but those come on their own, without you having to read about them. Whether you are a man or a woman, this article will help you clear up the popularized misconceptions about flirting and help you become a super flirt.
1. Always start everything by loving yourself first.
You can only be rejected if you have rejected yourself first. You can only fear rejection if you have first devalued yourself. If you approve of, love, appreciate, and respect yourself, not only will you radiate differently so that others will also appreciate and respect you, but even in cases where they reject you, it won’t matter, because you don’t need their attention. Once you happily communicate with others without fear of rejection, which means you’re okay, whether you get “rejected” or not, you’re free. You will not be afraid and you will be able to be the natural and humorous human being that you were meant to be. To top it off, you can save some time and money on silly seminars on finding partners or becoming a flirt. If you are not afraid to go out and talk to people, if you no longer require their attention and approval, you become brave and playful.
2. Flirting is spontaneous
Flirting happens spontaneously outside of the current setting. It is not written, prepared, pondered, thought, practiced. Trying to practice it or “learn its rules” can make you a disabled flirt for life. Trying to apply “techniques”; “Pick up lines” and “flirt rules” or any other nonsense is actually the opposite of what flirt is. The more you think about it, the more you’ve lost Flow. There is nothing to think. Human beings are attracted to each other by nature. They speak. They look at each other. And then they fall in love, or not. If they don’t, they each go their merry way. If they do, then best wishes to them! When you are spontaneous, your behavior and speech are not preconceived, censored, or considered. Instead, you are guided by “The Force”, the “Universe” and say the right things at the right times. And “just the right things” cannot be planned. The “just things” arise from the present moment. By being present with the other person, which means you have your attention with the other person instead of worrying about your thoughts and yourself, you more easily allow for spontaneity. If you remember only one thing from this article, let it be the word Spontaneous. Life is a game, a stage, there is nothing to fear. Start speaking spontaneously. To approach someone spontaneously. Ask someone out spontaneously. Do something different than expected, spontaneously. The best things in life happen without your planning. “You plan, God laughs.”
In my life I have learned to do many things spontaneously. Whether you’re giving a speech, training students, or recording audio lessons, it’s all done without preparation. I learned to let myself be guided by more competent forces (The Universe!) Many years ago. All of my recordings and meditations that people buy were spoken without a script and not knowing what he was going to say beforehand. This article was written spontaneously, without an outline or plan. And that’s why people enjoy and benefit from my books and recordings in different ways than they do from other works. My papers are not locked into my calculations or strategies or worrying about who is going to read them. I speak spontaneously. And the same applies to Flirt. Just start looking. But start talking. Or just start walking. Or just start smiling. It’s as easy as that, it really is.
4. Four types of energy flow
a) You are not interested, the other is not interested (neutral)
b) You are not interested, the other is interested (push)
c) You are interested, the other is not interested (pull)
d) You are interested, the other is interested (attraction)
Position TO it’s the easiest for most people because there’s hardly any push-and-pull energies involved. You are mostly disinterested to the point that you don’t even notice these people when you go out. Insecure people sometimes strike up conversations with them because it’s so easy, while wishing they could talk to their “target.” Sometimes, because there’s no desire or resistance involved, they don’t want anything from you, you don’t want anything from them, the conversations can become quite funny and good.
Position b not as painful as position c. Most are flattered by it. They enjoy getting the attention of others and rejecting it. If the other becomes too “sticky”, it can become unpleasant. In some cases, if you reduce your own resistance and prejudice, aversion or revulsion can turn into attraction. It is not impossible.
Position against it’s the one most people are afraid of, the one that can be “painful.” However, if you have practiced loving yourself, it will be less painful and instead a simple fact of life. By not having pain at all, sometimes you can even invest the energy so that the other develops a real interest in you. It is not impossible.
Position d it is the ideal state, mutual attraction, mutual appreciation. Being able to recognize the people you are in this position with is, by nature, part of the Art of Flirting. Can you walk into a room full of people and immediately tell who might be a “c class” person and who might not? Can. You know from the first time you see someone. This information is not processed by the normal intellect, it is “received in an instant” by your energy sense, by your body. One intuitively reads both the invisible energy field and the physical expression of that energy field (a person’s gaze) to see if there is a match or not. People who have been indoctrinated by advertising about who and what is supposedly “attractive” can have their perception impaired at times. Someone who “looks hot” is not necessarily an energetic partner. It can be, but it doesn’t have to be. Follow what your mind thinks is good for you, follow what you really feel. Whether you’re looking for romance or sex, you’ll have a much better time if you follow your heart. Better.
5. Having energy is attractive
How attractive you are has nothing to do with being a “flirt artist.” It has something to do with your appearance, your health, the state of your body. Some protest and say “Yes, but aren’t internal values more important?” Such questions are usually asked by those who are not sure of their appearance. The outer appearance is a reflection of your inner state. That means I can tell just by looking at you what your true inner state is. Inner values are important but they also create your outer appearance. I can read your character and what kind of life you have led, in your face. So the outward appearance is important. That’s not to say you should force yourself to look the way Glamor magazines would recommend you look. That is to say, you must take care of your appearance so that it is reasonably pleasant to look at and be with. How anything thinks it can attract someone who looks clean while looking dirty himself is beyond me. You have to represent yourself What are you looking for. You never get what you “want” in life, you get what you are.
The most important thing is happiness. If you’re full of energy, whether you show it or not, it’s contagious. People are naturally attracted to you. People like to gather around the heat. It radiates heat instead of seeking it. Radiate love instead of seeking it. Provide care instead of seeking it. Give interest instead of looking for it. Every time you fall into the trap of looking for something or expecting something or wanting something from another, stop right there and let yourself go. It happens to give that instead of wanting it.
If you would like support in releasing your fears while creatively visualizing flirting success, I highly recommend my “Reality Creation for Flirt” audio recording. If you liked this article, please pass it on to someone who can put it to good use.