My boyfriend says he’s confused is something you never want to hear yourself say. When the man you adore tells you that he’s not sure how he feels or that he’s not sure he wants to be in a relationship with you, it’s devastating. You don’t know what to think and you have no idea what to do. Do you try to convince him to ignore his confusion and just love you, or do you give him some space to think things through? If you don’t handle this exactly the right way, you will lose the man you love forever.

It is very likely that your boyfriend is confused because he is not sure about the future of the relationship. When a couple has been together for a while, a routine is usually established. For some men, this routine is identical to boredom. Your confusion may well be a symptom of that. Maybe you feel like the spark is gone because the two of you are acting more like a married couple than a dating couple.

Another reason some men feel turmoil in their relationship is that they reach a point where they realize the thrill of the chase is gone. When you two started dating, you probably kept him on your toes. You made him work a bit to get your attention and since things were fresh and new, he was willing to go after you. Now that he has you, that part of the relationship is gone.

The best way to handle things when your boyfriend tells you he’s not sure about you or the relationship is to be understood. Panicking or crying won’t help. Naturally, you will feel overwhelmed, but you need to keep in mind that how you handle yourself right now will have a huge impact on whether or not there is a future for the two of you. If you get too excited or beg him to reconsider, he’ll back off further.

You have to accept the fact that he is not happy with the way things are. The problem cannot be changed overnight. What you can do is encourage him to take time for himself. He will not expect this reaction from you at all. He is likely anticipating that you will do everything in your power to keep him. If you let him go, he will wonder about your feelings. It will also show him that you can live without him. Once a man feels that his woman will let him go, he will reconsider whether that is what he really wants or not.