Knowing how to move on after divorce can be a difficult concept for many men to understand. So much emotion and ideas are confusing and packed into a man’s brain right now, making it difficult to accept divorce and its long-term impact on their lives.

One way to sort all these things out in your own mind, to eliminate much of the negativity that inhabits your life, and to find a way forward is as simple as getting a pen and paper and sitting down with a quiet moment.

There are a few things you can do that can help:

• Write a letter addressed to your ex-wife detailing your complaints, thoughts, and emotions. Do not send this to them, it is symbolic. Be as honest and brutal as possible and put all that emotion on paper. After this, read it once, absorb it and accept it; Now burn it in a symbolic release from these negative thoughts.
• Write a list of the things you want to accomplish in the future. Make this a “dare to dream” list. Think big: think about the things you really want to happen, that are positive and achievable if you really put your mind to it. Do this when you feel good, and keep this list as a reminder of your dreams for the future.
• Write a budget. do it, seriously. Finances are such a problem for so many divorced men that it is important to be prudent and write it down and stick to it!