It can be very painful to know that your ex girlfriend is being abused in her new relationship. After all, you two once shared love and dreams together. No one deserves to be abused, so you have to help her, whether you get her back or not.

Before you do anything, you should decide if it is more important to save her from her abusive relationship or to get her back in a relationship with you. If you decide it’s more important to save her from her abusive relationship, she’ll see it as putting her interests before your own. For a person in an abusive situation, it is just the kind of support and love that they need. So, in a way, you’re killing two birds with one stone: first you save her from further abuse, and then you show her that you’re there for her. Most women will take it as a sign of love and you will eventually win the girl back.

You see, saving your ex girlfriend from an abusive relationship can go a long way for her. Because now, you are not only saving her from an unhappy relationship, but also from a possible threat to her life. By letting your ex know that you are a ‘safe place/person’ that she can go to, you can be sure that she will come back to you consistently.

A bonus will be if you were able to take good care of her when you were both in a relationship. If you couldn’t take good care of her before, let her know that you’ve changed (be sure to change if you weren’t good to her) and that she can depend on you. Tell her that she deserves much more than being in an abusive situation.

Your self-esteem at this point may have taken a serious hit from the abuser. Usually, the abuser will make the abused feel small and absorb whatever self-respect they have left. So what you can do is make her feel special. Pay attention to the things he says, do little things to brighten his day. Keep in mind that girls tend to appreciate small gestures. So use this to your advantage to get your ex girlfriend back from an abusive situation.

Remember, your true motivation is to save your ex girlfriend from an abusive relationship. Keep that as your top priority and she will naturally be attracted to you once again.