Almost everywhere you look you will find someone talking about forgiveness. Forgiveness can be very empowering and accelerate your path to authenticity. If you find yourself in the place of thinking that this is easier said than done, here are steps that can help you achieve success in forgiving yourself and others.
Write down everything that triggers you and the person or people with whom you are associated. This can be anything from your childhood to the present.
Write down any obsessive thoughts that recur in your mind over and over again. Obsessive thoughts can prevent you from having the energy you need for your daily activities. Not to mention the wonderful creative projects awaiting your attention.
Choose one of the above; It may be one that is less of a trigger, or you may decide to choose the most difficult one to overcome.
Connect with your higher power and say a little prayer for help with this situation and the person or persons involved.
Write down to the last detail everything that bothers you, everything you can remember about the situation. Do not censor yourself in any way. You want to have it all, down to the last detail, so you don’t have to go there again. It doesn’t matter how it sounds because no one else will read it.
When you feel like you’ve said all you need to say, burn the paper in a fireplace or outside in an enclosed area. As the smoke rises, allow all the feelings you have for the situation and the people involved to be lifted up with the smoke; really let it go, surrendering it all to your higher power. Really feel it come out of your body as you breathe deeply. Of course not from the smoke.
Now write, “I forgive myself for allowing (insert situation) to affect me, I forgive myself for any role I played in (insert situation). I forgive (blank) for your part in (insert situation).” Make sure to forgive all parties involved, including yourself, for every situation. Now read this aloud with the most heartfelt sense and conviction. Truly empowering every word with your authentic voice.
When you let go of things that are blocking your energy, you must replace them with something else or it can come back in right away. For each situation you clear, create a short, positive phrase that makes you feel good and reinforces your sense of well-being. By doing several at once, you can create a word picture, a collage, from all of your sentences. It is a pleasant reminder of the good work you have done.
Take a moment when you’re done, and breathe in loving, healing white light from your higher power through the crown, through your body, into every cell, down to your very DNA. Then breathe deeply and slowly as you push the healing light through your pores, surrounding them, enveloping them in the loving, healing white light of your higher power.
Working through all the steps above, up to the breathing exercise, is an example of a Sacred Life Ceremony. It is what has been lacking in society as a whole. Following these steps can help enrich your life. It can give you more energy, feelings of empowerment, and strength to do whatever it takes; everything you love, daily.