Are you stuck because your wife kicked you out of the house? She said she wants a divorce and you think she could mean it this time? Do you still love your wife and want to fix things? It may seem like an impossible situation right now, but the good news is that almost nothing is really impossible. Here’s how to get her wife back on her side and help improve her marriage.

Honestly, even if your wife kicked you out and you think she really means it this time, she still regrets it. She may not admit it right now and she may be extremely angry with you, but deep down, she is still scared. You are not facing one of the worst moments of your marriage and you are not wondering if you are doing something wrong. Marriage is a lifelong decision, and ending it is even worse. So even if she acts like she really wants a divorce, part of her probably isn’t sure.

So how do you get your wife back and prevent the divorce from happening? Well, what you really want to do now is play with the doubts he has. Of course you don’t want to do it in a way that makes her realize you’re doing it. And you’ll want to make sure you’re honest and don’t do anything sneaky at this point, or it could backfire on your face.

For starters, you need to give it a lot of space. If she kicked you out, don’t ever humiliate yourself by begging her to let you stay. She finds somewhere to go for a few days. And in the meantime, have as little contact with her as possible. One of the best things you can do is write a short text or leave a voicemail saying that you’re truly sorry for what happened (yes, even if it wasn’t your fault, you should apologize). And tell him you’d like to talk about things. Then leave her alone. Don’t call or text her anymore. And if she responds to the text or voicemail right away, tell her that she’d like a couple of days to think things over. Do not rush to speak.

Giving your wife space allows her to see what life will really be like without you. Plus, she gives him a chance to cool off (and she gives you, too). Things really look different when you’re not that angry about a situation, so you want your wife to think about what happened for a day or two. Ideally, you want her to come to you and she wants to talk too. That way you’ll know she’s back and she might be more willing to work things out.