Doc Love (aka Thomas Hodges) is an internationally known dating and relationship coach for men. Her knowledge and wisdom come from having interviewed more than 10,000 women over the past 35 years and raising fundamental questions about why a woman chooses to leave one man and stay with another. He has also interviewed several men who are ‘natural’ in this area and never have a problem getting and keeping women.

Doc Love’s exhaustive analysis of the information gathered from his interviews has culminated in 4 volumes of work:

• THE SYSTEM – THE QUOTE DICTIONARY
• MASTER I
• MASTER II
• MASTER III

THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY is the foundation course that lays the foundation for everything else. Once the student (whom Doc Love refers to as ‘Spartan-In-Training’) fully internalizes it, they can proceed to the advanced Mastery Series.

THE SYSTEM – THE DATING DICTIONARY covers some specific concepts and ingredients involved in the dynamics of any relationship. Some of them are the following:

Interest Level – Just as location is everything in the real estate business, a woman’s level of interest is everything in the dating game. Interest level (IL in short) basically refers to how strongly she is attracted to you.

When his IL is high, he makes it easy for you, does anything to make you happy, and always finds a reason to be with you. On the other hand, when his IL is low, he starts making some interesting excuses to avoid being with you. The level of interest is a dynamic factor and man’s actions will determine whether it goes up or down.

Challenge = How difficult it is for women to win you over. If you only fall in love with an attractive woman, then you are not a challenge to her, because she does not need to do absolutely anything to win you over! Instead, if you set your standards higher and expect not just physical attractiveness, but also proper respectful demeanor, honesty, integrity, and a flexible attitude, then she needs to work a lot harder to win you over. In the latter case, you are showing more defiance.

Confidence: This has two subcomponents – Self Confidence and Self Esteem.

Self-confidence = How strongly you believe in yourself. While it is possible to ‘fake it till you get it’, real confidence comes from knowing the product of life in general and women in particular … and your demonstrated skill in applying it.

Self-esteem = How much you value yourself. This is where it is important to say no to a woman from time to time, especially when you know that she is asking for something that would compromise your integrity. Women often do this to test you! But if you stand firm on such occasions, your IL rises. On the other hand, if you give in, your IL drops.

Control: This has three components: Patience, Self-Discipline, and Self-Control (note that it does not refer to controlling the woman, which is actually impossible!)

The 3 Cs mentioned above – Defiance, Confidence and Control – are the masculine steel traits that raise a woman’s Interest Level. A man needs to practice them all together to raise a woman’s Interest Level. If your interest level drops, it is very likely that you are missing at least one of the 3 C.

Once a woman’s Interest Level goes up over 95%, you are never wrong in her eyes! And that’s where you need to be to have a happy relationship. However, there is also a set of masculine velvet traits that you should practice to keep his interest level high. These are: Affection, Respect, Romance and Humor.

If you don’t practice these velvet features, your interest level will decrease.

THE SYSTEM – Doc Love’s DATING DICTIONARY focuses more on long-term relationships than short-term adventures. And to have a happy relationship that lasts a lifetime, Doc Love teaches you that in addition to measuring a woman’s level of interest, you also need to measure her attitude.

To be more precise, you date their interest level, but you marry their attitude.

When it comes to a woman’s attitude, you need to have the following non-negotiable elements:

• She must be self-connected
• She must have high self esteem.
• She must have a flexible nature.
• She must be a giver
• You must have integrity, which in turn is made up of loyalty, honesty, and dependability.

Keep in mind that a woman may have a very high level of interest in you; But if she has a lousy attitude, it will only end up lowering your interest in her in the long run. And this can make you miserable, especially if you get stuck in a loveless marriage.

THE SYSTEM – Doc Love’s DATING DICTIONARY also teaches you that once a woman’s IL drops below 50%, it can never go up again. So the relationship is over for all practical purposes. However, while most men would leave a relationship when their IL drops below 50%, women generally wait until their IL drops below 40%, due to their nesting nature.

And it can take a long time … possibly more than 10 to 20 years for this to happen (that is, for your interest level to drop from 49% to 39%). But during this period, he has almost zero chance of reviving his attraction to you. The relationship becomes a routine, and yes, you will have to put up with their incessant nagging, arguing, tantrums, and general disrespectful behavior.

But once it drops below 40%, it has already built up enough resentment and hatred towards you that it makes up for the nesting factor … and becomes extremely vicious as a result! This is when you hear that many men were falsely accused of rape, abuse, or domestic violence and sent to jail on bogus charges! I’m sure you must have met at least one friend of yours who went through this ordeal. Pretty scary thing, huh?

So if you want to avoid visiting a vicious anti-male family court; or shelling out tons of cash to divorce attorneys; or lose the hard-earned money and home to a ruthless ex-wife; or lose custody of your children; or lose your sanity in general, you definitely need to be equipped with superior knowledge of women and dating.