If you are a lesbian and just coming out of the closet, you will find that dating is a whole new experience that you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike straight dating, you or the other woman will be responsible for initiating the date. No more waiting for the boy to take the initiative! Like everything in life, this has its good and bad points. For one thing, you don’t have to sweat waiting to see if he asks you out. On the other hand, you will experience all the anxiety and fear of rejection that men have traditionally endured.

Now, let’s get back to the topic of this article. You may think you know everything there is to know about female attraction since you are a woman. Well maybe, but in our society you have only been conditioned to interact with men at this level, not with women. Therefore, determining if a woman is interested in you can be more difficult than you think. For one thing, men tend to be more open. On the other hand, if you meet a woman in a social context who is heterosexual (in other words, NOT in a gay bar or on an online dating site), you may not know if she is interested in you as a heterosexual friend or as a lesbian love. interest. Given that 98% of the population is heterosexual, guess what the odds are? Still, it happens and you should be able to figure it out. Here are some signs:

• Contact frequency: After your initial meeting, has this woman initiated contact with you? If you’ve seen her more than once, does she call you often to talk? Has he asked to see you again? In general, if a woman is interested in you, she will want to contact you and see you as much as possible!
• Mood: When you see this woman, what is her mood like? Do you smile a lot or even get dizzy? Are you always very happy to see you? Does he give you a big hug? On the contrary, if you can’t meet her, does she seem overly disappointed? Measure these humorous reactions with those of friends you have had in the past. In other words, try to determine if your reactions seem more extreme than usual.
• Alone or in a crowd? Does this woman prefer to see you with other friends or alone? A woman who is interested in you romantically will usually want to see you alone, rather than inviting you to a party or a “night out with the girls.”
• Listen carefully to what it says. Does he tell you that he likes you or that he really enjoys spending time with you? Does it express that time passes so fast when it is with you? If your friend doesn’t want your time together to end and regrets saying goodbye, that’s a sign! Does he offer to go with you when you have alternative plans, like, “Oh, I have some shopping to do too. I’ll go with you.” What you are hearing is behavior that is outside the norm.
• Jealousy. Although this is a negative emotion, it is also a sign that a woman is attracted to you. Does she seem upset when you have other obligations or want to spend time with another friend? Do you feel belittled by your other obligations? It is important to note here that she may be jealous of her time away from her, rather than the actual person or obligation she is caring for!

One last word. A woman who is attracted to you may never have experienced these feelings before. She may be confused and afraid of these feelings. It can even be involved in a heterosexual or married relationship. Often times, these feelings occur as the relationship progresses from being an acquaintance to a “best friend.” With most women, feelings of attraction stop at the “best friend,” but lesbians will continue to bond beyond that point in romantic love.