Wondering how to lock lips on a second date? It all starts with getting a second date in the first place, so don’t ignore how important a first date is. This article is divided into two parts. Part 1 is “act good on the first date so you can get a second date.” Part 2 is “How to lock lips on a second date.”

Part 1: Act cool on the first date to get a second date

A lot of guys just “off the cuff” when it comes to that all-important first date. “I’ll just be myself” is what they say. They then wonder why the girl who enthusiastically accepted date 1 is suddenly cold and distant when she tries to try dating again.

Here are some general rules for a first date (and really, ALL of your dates with her).

1. Be a gentleman by holding her chair, opening her car door, and for God’s sake don’t look at other women when you’re out with her. Also, keep your eyes focused on hers, and not, er, lower, if you know what I mean.

Also, keep the date around 2-3 hours. There is no point in trying to have an 8 hour date. They will wear each other down and they won’t have enough time with her to survive that kind of union. Ever heard the phrase “familiarity breeds contempt”? At first this is so true.

You have to feed yourself with a spoon so that she is always anticipating the next time you meet. Dating women is a marathon, NOT a sprint.

2. Don’t talk about how you think the world is going to end in 2012. You may believe the whole calendar thing, but a date is not the place for that or any other “serious” topic. Save the serious stuff for a philosophy class. Always keep things light and fun with her.

3. Grabbing is good when you’re on a game show trying to get the most balls in your hands in one minute to win a big prize. Grabbing is not good on the date with her. I understand that you are attracted to her, but just know that she knows when the time is right for you to touch yourself. Don’t put her arm around her, try to get her to sit on her lap, rub her shoulders or anything else. I’ve heard from so many women that men who get into her space too soon TURN THEM OFF. If she wants to brush her arm or leg while she laughs, don’t worry. But you stay away from her!

Also, touching you like this is a sign that he likes you. You will never get that signal if you get into her space and have your paws on her. You would leave the date wondering if she was touching you because she liked you or if she was trying to get away from you!

4. This goes along with #2. DON’T talk about all the disappointments in your life, ESPECIALLY ex-lovers. She doesn’t care that you didn’t get the video game when you were 5, the car when you were 16, or the love of your life at 22. She is ONLY there to see if she likes you enough to see you again for a second date. Make her laugh and keep things light.

5. Don’t reveal too much personal information about yourself, ESPECIALLY how you feel about her. Many guys say how much they like the girl and how they would love to see her again. That drives women away because, despite what they say, they like to chase a guy.

When you say “I think this date is going really well, I really like you, maybe we can do this again,” then she might smile at you and tell you that she likes you too. She might even enthusiastically agree on another date. However, make no mistake, she lowered her INTEREST LEVEL in you by telegraphing her true feelings.

Your INTEREST LEVEL is like the real interest on a savings account. Money doesn’t earn interest in your pocket, it earns interest when you invest it. Her INTEREST LEVEL does not increase in you when you are in front of her telling you how much you like her, it increases when you are not around her and she wonders what you are doing.

Also, don’t give her too many compliments (you can say 2, “you look good” at the beginning and “I had fun” at the end) and DO NOT give her gifts. That means no flowers during the date (or after) and no candy, bears, shiny things, etc. His INTEREST LEVEL is not increased by what you give him.

Do you know what kind of women respond to gifts from a guy they just started dating? MERCENARIES. Do you really want a MERCENARY?

6. Last but not least, only call her every 5-9 days and only ask her out on weekdays until she specifically asks why you don’t take her out on weekend nights. Obviously, that won’t happen between dates 1 and 2, so after date 1, wait 5-9 days and ask her out again on a weekday. During those 5-9 days, if you had a good time and laughed a lot on your first date, you will be thinking about and anticipating date 2. His INTEREST LEVEL in you will increase.

So, you did well on date 1, you had a lot of fun, you made her wonder about you by not calling her right away, and you’re looking forward to a second date. As you can see, this will make her much more willing and excited to kiss you on date 2. Which now brings us to part 2.

Part 2: How to lock lips on a second date

Date 2 should mirror Date 1 in how you act, but now you’ve become a cool guy with her.

He’s available because he’s gotten rid of all the other guys except you (so far). What did the “rejected” boys do?

I bet they tried to call her a lot, wanted to be in her space touching her, told her how much they liked her, gave her loads of compliments, wanted to fit in 3 dates the first week they met her, told her how much they miss her ex-girlfriend, told her they sent flowers and mostly made a nuisance of themselves.

You’re the suave guy who pulls out her chair, makes her laugh, and makes her wonder what you’re doing between dates. Believe it or not, even if you’re home in your underpants playing an online video game every night that you’re not with her, she’ll still think you have 5-6 other women she needs to knock out. box for your love Well, she’ll think if you’re not in her face calling her and giving her gifts.

Women love to think that they have to get other women out of the ring to catch you. I don’t know why that is, but it is!

So on the second date, just have fun, make her laugh, keep your hands to yourself and end the date after 2-3 hours like on the first date.

Walk her to the door like in date 1 (like the gentleman you are), tell her you had fun, and then go for the kiss. If he returns it, you have a good candidate for date 3. If he turns his head or backs away, you have to delete his number!

Plus, be the one to back off on the first kiss! Don’t delay and kiss until the sun comes up. Any other boy would do that. Well, guys who are trying to make dating women a career. You know it’s a marathon and each date needs to build on the previous one. Remember, she always needs to anticipate being with you next time and be excited about it.

Remember guys, if you’re wondering how to lock lips on a second date, keep in mind that it starts with a strategy to employ from date 1 onwards!