My sister has been self-absorbed all her life. He does not take any responsibility for his acts of hatred and constantly blames others for his actions. Our mother suffered a stroke in 2006. She refused to take care of our mother until now. My uncles take care of our mother because I work too. I can’t help but resent her for lack of caring and caring personality. He even abandons his own children for selfish gratification.

Since there are only two of us, basically, I am always the one who takes care of our family despite having a family of my own. I can’t seem to think about the hatred my sister feels towards me and the lies she has told to scam other people. He wants to win the sympathy of other people by blaming me. Last year she almost died of suffocation because the child in her womb died three days ago and she did nothing to solve the problem. My family called me and asked what I could do to help her with seemingly unstoppable bleeding. The first reaction was to be angry that she did not take care of herself even though she was pregnant. Then I gave him money for his checkup. The result of her ultrasound examination showed that her bleeding was caused by a failed miscarriage. She needed to undergo an operation to carry the dead fetus into her uterus or else she could die from a hemorrhage.

Fortunately, he survived without undergoing an operation. The baby was removed from her uterus through an induction procedure. When he got out of the hospital, I advised him to be careful and consider the consequences of his actions. Because she and her husband were not on good terms, she left her children in the care of her husband and found a job as a waitress at a steakhouse. Just a month later, she was pregnant by her co-worker, a very young 23-year-old man while she was already 37 years old. I swore that I will not help her anymore because I cannot tolerate such irresponsible behavior.

I really don’t know what is coming to her. Now her belly is 8 months old. He asks me for money for his ultrasound and medical care. Her supposed boyfriend left her a month ago. Now she is left alone with the burden of the responsibility of raising the baby and the possibility of facing adultery charges from her legal husband.

Am I to blame for your circumstance?

When she needs me, I am always there for her. But she won’t listen to her family. She thinks her family is bad and an obstacle to her happiness. Now, I am faced with a bigger problem: where to get money for delivery next month. She doesn’t have a hundred ready. Her coworkers thought I was a bad sister where in fact she is like that. She never appreciates the good things you do to her. He doesn’t even know how to thank you for your efforts.

She doesn’t do anything productive in her life. She doesn’t care about her children. He already has 3 children. Now that she is pregnant, that would make them 4. She makes excuses and blames others for her situation. She blames me for not having a tubal ligation so that she is no longer pregnant. He acts like a victim and does not take responsibility for causing their situation. She sees me as a manipulative and abusive sister, although it is the other way around. He even threatens to end it all because there is nothing to live for anymore.

I allowed him to make his own decisions. I never told him what to do. But often, I explained to her what her decisions might lead to. But now I realized that she needs a slap for acting silly and doing something completely stupid that will hurt others, especially her children and herself. You need to shake it up a bit to get it back to reality.

I can’t always be there for her because I also have kids of my own. But one thing is for sure, she can count on me in times of need.