If you want to cement the flirting process then you need to build a relationship with the other person, this involves questioning the other person about their preferences and also opening up through personal disclosure.

Developing the art of open-ended questions

To boost your personal and professional relationships, then you need to develop the ability to get to know the other person, this is the art of building a good relationship. If you are currently asking questions, or a series of questions that only lead to a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ (closed questions), then you leave no opportunity for personal disclosure, which is vital to see what you both share. common. People like people with whom they share things in common.

For quick access to reporting, you need to start asking open-ended questions. Try replacing those closed questions like “Isn’t it wet today?” For open questions that require a longer answer “What do you think of the weather today?”

Open questions begin with who, what, where, when, why, and how. Keep those keywords in mind when a question is forming in your mind. You can also ask a friend or colleague to count how many open and closed questions you ask in a normal conversation. This will give you great feedback, and then you can try to improve the number of times you ask a closed question during a conversation.

Choose a topic they want to talk about

It’s much easier to create a report when you allow the other person to talk about a topic that interests you. Be careful not to dominate the conversion with your own favorite topics, instead listen carefully and research your interests. Use the following tips to ensure you have a number of tricks up your sleeve.

You should tailor the conversation to the other person’s needs. No matter how much you want to share the latest happenings with your favorite soap opera or how your soccer team is progressing, that doesn’t mean the other person will find them so fascinating.

Research has shown that a woman will speak more words in a single day than a man, which explains why women are much more adept at small talk. Women are more interested in emotions, while men are more focused on facts. Use the topic suggestions below as areas you can research to make sure the conversation flows;

• Your line of work
• News, headlines (from current affairs to reality shows)
• Previous or planned vacation destinations
• Musical tastes
• Topics, interests, and events from your social media page (such as Facebook, MySpace, LinkedIn, etc.)
• Interests and hobbies

Keep conversations from losing steam

It takes practice to keep a conversation from losing steam, but once you learn how to do it, you will never be without conversation again. This skill will serve you not only with your flirting efforts, but also at work or in interviews. You will become a more interesting person to talk to.

Look for opportunities to tell people about yourself based on the information you just shared; speeds up the reporting process and allows the other person to identify areas that they share in common. People who are good at personal disclosure make you feel like you’ve ‘known them for years’.

Try to answer questions with a lot of meaningful information (without dominating the conversation) and with a tagged question at the end of your answer, keep the report building and ping pong conversation back and forth nicely.